Each county in the UK is very much like each state in the USA; for example, the food and the language and even the outlook on life varies. We're up in South Yorkshire (SO different from North Yorkshire) and my husband- aka Grandad- is out back helping his grandson sort out/repair the go kart they made on our last visit (or two, this seems to be an on going project). GS (Grandson) is a delight to listen to, with his Yorkshire accent ( love to hear him say "huney" as in "Winnie the Pooh honey".
This morning at breakfast we have been talking about GS's first visit to America this coming April. It reminded me of the years of preparing children to relocate from the UK to the USA and vice versa when I was director of Childtrack International. It's just as much fun now as it was then, and I am thinking of ways to help this delightful eight year old enjoy his brief visit. Global granparenting means introducing fun in various languages ( Russina, Italian, American English-mostly southern, British English-north and south versions in our family) and brings the introduction of "other ways of doing things" quite early on in life. GS's half English/half Italian cousin is growing up bi-lingual, but even bi-dialectual children have their challenges.
While I am thinking about sticking up British and American coins on the fridge, and introducing the biscuits vs cookies choices, Grandad is thinking up places to take GS and parents (his daugher and her husband) who have also never travelled to America. The family is clear they want to see normal family life on the Gulf of Mexico, so dropping them off at Disney (my student job was the Orlando Disney World) isn't going to work.
GD believes he will start with a bicycle for GS, while leaving the parents to relax on the lanai (Florida word for screened in back porch)- and that means starting with finding a bicycle that fits GS and a helmet to match. One lap around the neighbourhood lake and then off they go to the Inland Waterway of Sarasota county!
Still, that's months away and just outside on a cold Yorkshire December morning, "the lads" are working on the go-kart.
Friday 30 December 2011
Thursday 22 December 2011
And now for the UK!
It is hard to believe that it is a month since I last updated my blog, "Parents on the Move!" The reason for this break is that my husband I have been on the move with a re-entry for four months to the UK. You may recall that we live part of the year in the United States and part of the year in the United Kingdom, though how much of the year is spent in each country varies. We also visit my husband's daughter, son in law and grandchild in Italy each year. Whereever we are, it does feel like home.
It was a challenge to leave Florida this year; leaving family and friends, our church, and great weather. We both enjoy the American way of life, but as soon as we landed on UK soil; we wondered how we will be able to leave it at the end of our time here. I was so pleased to be met at the airport by my daughter and have already had one lovely day with her in her new home in London.
As Christmas approaches, we genuinely look forward to having adult children and grandchildren visit; and we look forward to visiting them in their homes. We have six children between us, all truely a joy. We aren't pretending to be a blended family but we are also real about valuing each member of this greatly extended family and so grateful for time together.
It is my prayer that you and your family have a blessed time together (even if it is just a skype moment!), whever in the world you are for the holiday!
News: Parents on the Move! will soon be available on kindle!
It was a challenge to leave Florida this year; leaving family and friends, our church, and great weather. We both enjoy the American way of life, but as soon as we landed on UK soil; we wondered how we will be able to leave it at the end of our time here. I was so pleased to be met at the airport by my daughter and have already had one lovely day with her in her new home in London.
As Christmas approaches, we genuinely look forward to having adult children and grandchildren visit; and we look forward to visiting them in their homes. We have six children between us, all truely a joy. We aren't pretending to be a blended family but we are also real about valuing each member of this greatly extended family and so grateful for time together.
It is my prayer that you and your family have a blessed time together (even if it is just a skype moment!), whever in the world you are for the holiday!
News: Parents on the Move! will soon be available on kindle!
Wednesday 16 November 2011
On the move-again!
In my book, Parents on the Move," I write about "good closure;" that is, taking time to say goodbye and preparing to move to your next location. As I live this global family life, I am taking my own advice. In the next weeks I will not be writing my usual weekly blog for Parents on the Move, but spending time with family and friends as we pack up to move back to the UK.
My husband and I look forward to having time with family over Thanksgiving on the USA side of the pond, and then reuniting with family over Christmas on the UK side of the pond. At the moment I am revelling in Thanksgiving colours and recipes, and enjoying speaking on skype with my daughter as she plans a Thanksgiving meal with friends at her church. She informed me today that there is a food store in London selling Thanksgiving food items and promising to donate the proceeds to the American Church in London. ACL has a wonderful soup kitchen that has been going for years, so what a great fundraising idea!
So with a focus firmly on givng thanks, I re-read what I wrote in Parents on the Move! (Destiny Image publishers) and will get busy preparing to once again be "on the move!" May blessings abound for you and your global family. See you again when the plane lands in London!
My husband and I look forward to having time with family over Thanksgiving on the USA side of the pond, and then reuniting with family over Christmas on the UK side of the pond. At the moment I am revelling in Thanksgiving colours and recipes, and enjoying speaking on skype with my daughter as she plans a Thanksgiving meal with friends at her church. She informed me today that there is a food store in London selling Thanksgiving food items and promising to donate the proceeds to the American Church in London. ACL has a wonderful soup kitchen that has been going for years, so what a great fundraising idea!
So with a focus firmly on givng thanks, I re-read what I wrote in Parents on the Move! (Destiny Image publishers) and will get busy preparing to once again be "on the move!" May blessings abound for you and your global family. See you again when the plane lands in London!
Wednesday 9 November 2011
Families in Global Transition Conference
Announcing the 2012 Families in Global Tranistion Conference in Washington,DC. Early Bird registration is now open, and you are invited to attend March 29-31.
Who is this conference for? It's for corporate, military, missionary, NGO (non-governmental)and diplomatic families.
Purpose? To meet others, like yourselves, with families living all over the world. This is for Human Resource professionals, trainers in cross cultural understanding, as well as simply for those of us living this life of international relocation (and re-entry). Actually, FIGT (Families in Global Tranistion) is very much like a family reunion! Getting together with people who speak your language, and understanding your concerns and joys of global living.
This is the friendliest conference you will ever attend; and though there is a strong basis of assisting research in the field of cross cultural family living, it is just as much about having a meal with someone who understands how hard it is to settle into a new country as it is to attend workshops that can up your skill level for global living. It's worth the flight! Check out Families in Global Transition conference details!
Who is this conference for? It's for corporate, military, missionary, NGO (non-governmental)and diplomatic families.
Purpose? To meet others, like yourselves, with families living all over the world. This is for Human Resource professionals, trainers in cross cultural understanding, as well as simply for those of us living this life of international relocation (and re-entry). Actually, FIGT (Families in Global Tranistion) is very much like a family reunion! Getting together with people who speak your language, and understanding your concerns and joys of global living.
This is the friendliest conference you will ever attend; and though there is a strong basis of assisting research in the field of cross cultural family living, it is just as much about having a meal with someone who understands how hard it is to settle into a new country as it is to attend workshops that can up your skill level for global living. It's worth the flight! Check out Families in Global Transition conference details!
Wednesday 19 October 2011
New Migration
This morning I came across a "birdie"- that's the term I hear around here for "birdwatcher;" rather like "foodie" is for someone with epicurian intentions. When we are in Florida we live in what is called a Bird Sanctuary, and so I suppose it is to be expected that we might run across one or two people with bird labelled t-shirts and binoculars hanging around their neck. As my husband and I had seen a quite unusual bird skimming over our neighbourhood while we had breakfast on the lanai (Florida word for back porch with mosquito screen), I stopped this "birdie" and asked what was going on.
"Quite a few bird watchers out this morning. Something happening in the bird world?" I asked as he was actually the third birdie I had come across in my morning walk.
"Well, there seems to be a new migration pattern happening."
"What kind of birds?"
And he listed a plethora of names that had words like "tennessee" and "long-tailed," and then he lost me.
"It is unusual," he said, "we've had some migration fall out."
I listened to him and hoped it wasn't as serious as the nuclear kind, but he did look excited and not too concerned.
It seems it is that time of year again, when the birds move from one part of the world to the other; and not all birds move from the north to the sunnier south. Some fly north to find the food they need. Some terns fly from one artic to another, some soar above Everest for an incredible view. Still, bird watchers say there is something new happening with the normal migration patterns. A little like those of us who are regularly on the move.
These days more and more of us are just having to go where the jobs are. Are we excited? Curious? Not following the flock? Please take a moment to read the Releasing Prayer that you will find at the end of my book, "Parents on the Move!" published by Destiny Image Europe and available from Amazon (see side bar). Be released into the flight pattern the Father has just for you!
As the "snow birds" (northerners who come to Florida for the winter) start to arrive, our neighbourhood church always puts up sign. This year it says, "We welcome snowbirds of pray!" It's almost time for my husband and I to pack up and leave our house with our favourite snowbird renters; and for us to head back to the UK. If you are getting ready to make a move, we pray safe flights to all!
Please note: the actual migration patterns ARE NOT changing, but the weather patterns are affecting the flow of migration and quite a number of birds are making an unusual pitstop! Large numbers of reb breasted warblers in our area this morning- VERY rare indeed!
"Quite a few bird watchers out this morning. Something happening in the bird world?" I asked as he was actually the third birdie I had come across in my morning walk.
"Well, there seems to be a new migration pattern happening."
"What kind of birds?"
And he listed a plethora of names that had words like "tennessee" and "long-tailed," and then he lost me.
"It is unusual," he said, "we've had some migration fall out."
I listened to him and hoped it wasn't as serious as the nuclear kind, but he did look excited and not too concerned.
It seems it is that time of year again, when the birds move from one part of the world to the other; and not all birds move from the north to the sunnier south. Some fly north to find the food they need. Some terns fly from one artic to another, some soar above Everest for an incredible view. Still, bird watchers say there is something new happening with the normal migration patterns. A little like those of us who are regularly on the move.
These days more and more of us are just having to go where the jobs are. Are we excited? Curious? Not following the flock? Please take a moment to read the Releasing Prayer that you will find at the end of my book, "Parents on the Move!" published by Destiny Image Europe and available from Amazon (see side bar). Be released into the flight pattern the Father has just for you!
As the "snow birds" (northerners who come to Florida for the winter) start to arrive, our neighbourhood church always puts up sign. This year it says, "We welcome snowbirds of pray!" It's almost time for my husband and I to pack up and leave our house with our favourite snowbird renters; and for us to head back to the UK. If you are getting ready to make a move, we pray safe flights to all!
Please note: the actual migration patterns ARE NOT changing, but the weather patterns are affecting the flow of migration and quite a number of birds are making an unusual pitstop! Large numbers of reb breasted warblers in our area this morning- VERY rare indeed!
Monday 3 October 2011
It's a Ministry!
This past Sunday I was blessed to hear Pastor Joy announce that she and Pastor Jim are starting to hold Open House for the parents of any teenagers attending the Friday night "Firebrand!" (every youth group worth its salt seems to have a name other than "youth group" these days)
Though my "kids" are way past the youth group age, I remember clearly the nights when you drive the young ones to church, drop them off and then try to return on time. Parents can even argue over "whose turn it is to do the run," and it is only a slight step up from the diaper/nappy changing conversation had years earlier.
Some parents are smart about this time and use it as their own Date Night, but in these financially challenged times going out to dinner (just for themselves) doesn't always make the budget cut. Yet, parents of teenagers need very much to invest in their own marriage and have a little fun with other parents- even having a little relief time from their full-on parenting job. Once your kids are in High School you aren't exactly catching up and sharing the real stories with other parents at the "school-gate" anymore.
For Pastors Jim and Joy at Fisherman's Net Revival Center in Venice, Florida to recognise this and open their home to parents who have already spent the money on the gas/petrol to drive the kids to their evening out just blessed me. I know they will have a great time in our Pastors' home; getting to enjoy a laugh, share a prayer concern and inside scoop on what's going on and chomping on some great food. Makes me want to carry out my true ministry-baking some chocolate chip cookies! Let's bless parents, not just at the early stages;but when they have been at it awhile.
Toll House Chocolate Chip Cookies recipe:http://www.verybestbaking.com/recipes/144813/Original-NESTL%C3%89-TOLL-HOUSE-Dark-Chocolate-Chip-Cookies/detail.aspx
Tuesday 27 September 2011
Beyond Broken Families
This month I am pleased to announce that my new book, "Beyond Broken Families," is to be published by Destiny Image Europe. This book is about the journey to catch the vision God gave me for family life today. When a family falls apart through serious illness, or divorce we are often told to "move on." This book, while sharing my personal stories of recovery, looks at the challenge that God gave me to move into His creative plan for living beyond the brokeness.
May blessings abound as you read what the Lord has in store for recovering your family!
This week I am speaking at Sarasota Christian Bookstore, Living Word. It's "Girl's Night Out," and we look forward to gathering for a great time together, giving thanks for the Holy Spirit leading us on amazing life adventures!
Saturday 13 August 2011
Your Garden
There is a wonderful conference each year at the American Church is Paris, called, "Bloom Where you are Planted." These days we never seem to be in Europe when it's held (in October), but I love the name of the conference and I would recommend it to anyone just moving to that wonderful city.
As I am married to an English gardener, that theme of just how we bloom in all our locations is a growing theme in my mind. Back in Surrey, England we have a Scottish neighbour who seems to be nurturing some heather out back. I am not sure the heather is that comfortable among the English flowers that the local English gardener is longing to see flourish; in what is supposed to be a communal garden. I look out the window from our high window and I do not this neighbouring multi-cultural garden flourishing, but a war of roses versus heather.
My own English Gardener is at the moment working in the heat of a Florida late morning (Florida gardens are to be attended to in the wee hours or late evening) and adding yet another plant. I am excited to see our Key Lime flourishing, and have enjoyed a few limes in refreshing afternoon drinks;but we continue to learn what truely blooms in this heat. We have a baby palm tree of the variety that WANTS to grow in this area, having replaced an exotic palm that never belonged on the Gulf of Mexico. The exotic drooped with every blight headed our way. The one meant to be here is the one that flourishes.
Not all of us are meant to be in the land of a birth passport, and some of us were born to have two or more passports...maybe we just need to check the soil and see if there are blooming possibilities.
As I am married to an English gardener, that theme of just how we bloom in all our locations is a growing theme in my mind. Back in Surrey, England we have a Scottish neighbour who seems to be nurturing some heather out back. I am not sure the heather is that comfortable among the English flowers that the local English gardener is longing to see flourish; in what is supposed to be a communal garden. I look out the window from our high window and I do not this neighbouring multi-cultural garden flourishing, but a war of roses versus heather.
My own English Gardener is at the moment working in the heat of a Florida late morning (Florida gardens are to be attended to in the wee hours or late evening) and adding yet another plant. I am excited to see our Key Lime flourishing, and have enjoyed a few limes in refreshing afternoon drinks;but we continue to learn what truely blooms in this heat. We have a baby palm tree of the variety that WANTS to grow in this area, having replaced an exotic palm that never belonged on the Gulf of Mexico. The exotic drooped with every blight headed our way. The one meant to be here is the one that flourishes.
Not all of us are meant to be in the land of a birth passport, and some of us were born to have two or more passports...maybe we just need to check the soil and see if there are blooming possibilities.
Thursday 30 June 2011
USA Health Care
Did you know that in America you cannot pruchase health insurance for the first time if you are over 64 and 1/2...don't forget the half! This should be a wake up call for all Americans living overseas long term, and planning to come home for retirement. Unless you only plan to travel back/or to the US for three to six months and can get coverage via Travel Insurance, you could be stuck indeed.
USA health care always begins with insurance. It's that time of year for my husband and I to change countries, from the UK to the USA; and so uppermost in our minds is health insurance. As I am under sixty five, we almost didn't purchase travel insurance for me, thinking I might just find an American health policy and get started making those payments. My husband, however, is over sixty five so there was no policy available for him to buy in America. This limited our travel to the six months for which we could find UK travel insurance coverage for him. My husband, being kind, didn't want to just buy insurance for himeself and not for me- and it was a good thing he did!
We arrived in Florida on Tuesday and on Wednesday I developed a dental emergency that seemed to require a root canal. We thankfully also have a church we attend when in this part of the world (Fisherman's Net Revival Center) and our pastors Jim and Joy McInness recommended a dentist Jim had used and liked. The dentist, Dr S.... was friendly, professional and able to help. Only we learned that a root canal and work afterwards would not give us much change from $3,000!
I had a good look at my tooth. "Are you worth $3,000?" I asked my tooth? "No," was my conclusion. If it were a lovely twenty year old tooth just two weeks before my wedding, I would opt for the root canal. But at this price, this tooth would have to go! So, for $289.00 I had it extracted. I definately want a new tooth....and apparently I can have it in any colour I want. Pink. Purple. White even.
USA health care always begins with insurance. It's that time of year for my husband and I to change countries, from the UK to the USA; and so uppermost in our minds is health insurance. As I am under sixty five, we almost didn't purchase travel insurance for me, thinking I might just find an American health policy and get started making those payments. My husband, however, is over sixty five so there was no policy available for him to buy in America. This limited our travel to the six months for which we could find UK travel insurance coverage for him. My husband, being kind, didn't want to just buy insurance for himeself and not for me- and it was a good thing he did!
We arrived in Florida on Tuesday and on Wednesday I developed a dental emergency that seemed to require a root canal. We thankfully also have a church we attend when in this part of the world (Fisherman's Net Revival Center) and our pastors Jim and Joy McInness recommended a dentist Jim had used and liked. The dentist, Dr S.... was friendly, professional and able to help. Only we learned that a root canal and work afterwards would not give us much change from $3,000!
I had a good look at my tooth. "Are you worth $3,000?" I asked my tooth? "No," was my conclusion. If it were a lovely twenty year old tooth just two weeks before my wedding, I would opt for the root canal. But at this price, this tooth would have to go! So, for $289.00 I had it extracted. I definately want a new tooth....and apparently I can have it in any colour I want. Pink. Purple. White even.
Monday 13 June 2011
English RE Curriculum comes Alive with Orizon!
Pupils at the Weyburn School in Farnham, Surrey are in for a treat today! Orison is hosting a day of interactive, multi-sensory prayer spaces....and that means a time out of the classroom to meet some very important RE (Religeous Education) Curriculum targets, indeed.
My husband and I joined some of the youth workers in Farnham for a taster experience this past Sunday afternoon and we were impressed both by the quality of learning station experiences as well as the enthusiasm of the staff that hosts the event.
RE with the Orison team becomes more that just "reflecting on beliefs, teachings, world issues and ultimate questions," (Curriculum targets) it is experiencing these questions and reflections in a way that engages teens. For example, there is a wire cage where you can climb in, and then read questions such as, "Who is caging you in?"
Teens can explore the "zones" at their own pace, such as the "Image Zone," where there is a chance to consider their "image and identity," a World Zone, where they can pray about what is going on in the world, a "Sorry Zone," where they explore forgiving and being forgiven, as well as letting go of past hurts. There is also a "Bubble Zone, " which is a chill out zone complete with bubble tube, symbolizing sending up their prayers to God.Post-it notes with prayers everywhere!See the comments the pupils have made on previous experience days, by going to their website listed below.
Check out the Orizon website: www.orisonschools.org.uk
My husband and I joined some of the youth workers in Farnham for a taster experience this past Sunday afternoon and we were impressed both by the quality of learning station experiences as well as the enthusiasm of the staff that hosts the event.
RE with the Orison team becomes more that just "reflecting on beliefs, teachings, world issues and ultimate questions," (Curriculum targets) it is experiencing these questions and reflections in a way that engages teens. For example, there is a wire cage where you can climb in, and then read questions such as, "Who is caging you in?"
Teens can explore the "zones" at their own pace, such as the "Image Zone," where there is a chance to consider their "image and identity," a World Zone, where they can pray about what is going on in the world, a "Sorry Zone," where they explore forgiving and being forgiven, as well as letting go of past hurts. There is also a "Bubble Zone, " which is a chill out zone complete with bubble tube, symbolizing sending up their prayers to God.Post-it notes with prayers everywhere!See the comments the pupils have made on previous experience days, by going to their website listed below.
Check out the Orizon website: www.orisonschools.org.uk
Monday 6 June 2011
Teens Make Movies
A young friend of mine, Claire (age 16), loves film/movie making has been trying out some new skills on a virtual school site called "skoolabarate".
Me: So, Claire, how does it work?
Claire:the company that make the site is called, "Second Life," and they have created a teen environment for schools called "Skoolabrate." This is a virtual world where you can meet teens from all around the world from other schools and you can work together on projects, such as making movies.
Me:Can you do this at home, or is it only through your school?
Claire:You can go on it (the site) at home, but you have to get involved through the school to make sure you are approved entry.It's secure as any school site, because it is part of school. Only teachers that have been approved are allowed on it- those teaches are the only adults."
Me:So what have you done on this site?
Claire:Lots! For example, I have created machinimas.A machinimas is an online virtual movie, which we make as a team with students from several countries. There are also human rights projects where you learn about human rights, and then create a project on a specific topic. We did one called Tapestry, where you have images of different human rights events and wrote about these events on the back of the Tapestry, which is like a big wall.
Me:What do you get out of doing this virtual school work?
Claire:You get to meet and collaborate with loads of people that normally you would never get to meet. And while making a machinima you can share your experince of what life is like in your country. I met a girl from Chile who was studying English and because I am from England we've been talking and keeping in touch. This has helped her improve her English and I've started learning Spanish from her; and who knows, out of our working together on new techniques and skills we may just have a film to show the world....or at least the other teens connected to 'Second Life'.
If you are interested in the future of global education, check out Claire's favourite site in the link above and see some of the other projects teens are developing today.
Me: So, Claire, how does it work?
Claire:the company that make the site is called, "Second Life," and they have created a teen environment for schools called "Skoolabrate." This is a virtual world where you can meet teens from all around the world from other schools and you can work together on projects, such as making movies.
Me:Can you do this at home, or is it only through your school?
Claire:You can go on it (the site) at home, but you have to get involved through the school to make sure you are approved entry.It's secure as any school site, because it is part of school. Only teachers that have been approved are allowed on it- those teaches are the only adults."
Me:So what have you done on this site?
Claire:Lots! For example, I have created machinimas.A machinimas is an online virtual movie, which we make as a team with students from several countries. There are also human rights projects where you learn about human rights, and then create a project on a specific topic. We did one called Tapestry, where you have images of different human rights events and wrote about these events on the back of the Tapestry, which is like a big wall.
Me:What do you get out of doing this virtual school work?
Claire:You get to meet and collaborate with loads of people that normally you would never get to meet. And while making a machinima you can share your experince of what life is like in your country. I met a girl from Chile who was studying English and because I am from England we've been talking and keeping in touch. This has helped her improve her English and I've started learning Spanish from her; and who knows, out of our working together on new techniques and skills we may just have a film to show the world....or at least the other teens connected to 'Second Life'.
If you are interested in the future of global education, check out Claire's favourite site in the link above and see some of the other projects teens are developing today.
Thursday 2 June 2011
Relocation Support Team Final
Single friends of mine, going on overseas work assignments, whether for corporate, missionary, or for non-governmental agencies (such as my stint in the Peace Corps) have often talked of needing, "a wife," and as I wrote in my book "Parents on the Move!" they "are not talking about getting married.
For me, when I was single, this might have included a cook (this meant ready-cooked meals when I had no time to cook), a laundry (thank you for all the services in the world where you can drop off dirty clothes and collect or have delivered at the end of the day!), and a house cleaner (blessings to all who have ever helped with keeping the home front sane)."
Today's blog is the final installment on developing your own Relocation Support Team list.
Number 8
I suggest that the eigth person on your list is someone to assist you with "Time Off." Before you say, "wait a minute, I haven't even started working yet and you are talking about time off?" The time off I am talking about here is more about building margins into what can be a crazily hectic life when you move from one country to another. Support Team Number Eight on one of my previous client's lists (and I must say I have adopted for myself especially when I carry my own luggage) is a message therapist!
My client said she "would travel anywhere if her husband promises this recovery therapy."
For others, Number 8 on your list is someone who can show you the golf course, but for all of us we need to find a way to build a Sabbath-once-a- week rest. We were made to need this rest. The person who can help you meet this need is important.
Number 9
Though you can list your support team in any order, parents with children that have special needs often need someone on their support team to help with food issues. You need real and honest information when it comes to finding food to avoid nut allergies or provide gluten free items at a reasonable cost. Families without these issues still need assistance when it comes to healthy food choices in a new location.
Number 10
Number Ten on your list is to leave room for "Other." As you go through the list and look at the advice you have received on developing your own support team, you will see that there is always room for someone unique to your own needs. Take time to pray, asking God if there is someone else you should add to this list and then wait to hear what He has to say. Pray for divine appointments; those times when someone crosses your path, and you just know God is providing an answer to prayer.
I pray that all who are reading this blog as part of their preparation to move across town or across the world as part of what Jesus Christ is asking them to do, that you will go in peace to love and serve the Lord.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which passes understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Remember- relocation is a team sport!
For me, when I was single, this might have included a cook (this meant ready-cooked meals when I had no time to cook), a laundry (thank you for all the services in the world where you can drop off dirty clothes and collect or have delivered at the end of the day!), and a house cleaner (blessings to all who have ever helped with keeping the home front sane)."
Today's blog is the final installment on developing your own Relocation Support Team list.
Number 8
I suggest that the eigth person on your list is someone to assist you with "Time Off." Before you say, "wait a minute, I haven't even started working yet and you are talking about time off?" The time off I am talking about here is more about building margins into what can be a crazily hectic life when you move from one country to another. Support Team Number Eight on one of my previous client's lists (and I must say I have adopted for myself especially when I carry my own luggage) is a message therapist!
My client said she "would travel anywhere if her husband promises this recovery therapy."
For others, Number 8 on your list is someone who can show you the golf course, but for all of us we need to find a way to build a Sabbath-once-a- week rest. We were made to need this rest. The person who can help you meet this need is important.
Number 9
Though you can list your support team in any order, parents with children that have special needs often need someone on their support team to help with food issues. You need real and honest information when it comes to finding food to avoid nut allergies or provide gluten free items at a reasonable cost. Families without these issues still need assistance when it comes to healthy food choices in a new location.
Number 10
Number Ten on your list is to leave room for "Other." As you go through the list and look at the advice you have received on developing your own support team, you will see that there is always room for someone unique to your own needs. Take time to pray, asking God if there is someone else you should add to this list and then wait to hear what He has to say. Pray for divine appointments; those times when someone crosses your path, and you just know God is providing an answer to prayer.
I pray that all who are reading this blog as part of their preparation to move across town or across the world as part of what Jesus Christ is asking them to do, that you will go in peace to love and serve the Lord.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which passes understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Remember- relocation is a team sport!
Wednesday 1 June 2011
Relocation Support Team- Part Two
Your Relocation Support Team List
Number Five
Number five on your Relocation Support Team (RST) is "Driver!" Two weeks ago I wrote about having a driver to take you around on your research trip, so that you are on time for your school appointments. A driver can also show you good neighbourhoods, and places to shop. If a professional driver (check they know school locations and not just business locations)is just too expensive for your relocation budget, and the Tom Tom is a challenge too far, then pray for someone who will be on the end of the phone to help you resource what you need.
Some of us, with map reading ability at zero, need some one who can simply draw a clear map. Think through the assistance you require to find who, what and where your needs are located in your new location. A new friend who knows the territory and doesn't mind giving you time to let you know the location of grocery stores and reasonably priced school clothes is a must on your support list!
Number Six
Number six on your RST is "Housing Advisor." Long after you have had your wonderful estate agent/ realtor find you a place to live, you need the contact details for what ever you need to look after your new home. Plumber? Repairman? The Housing Advisor has all the numbers! In the states, your realtor is often more than helpful with assisting you in this area. In the UK you may need to dig a little further to get someone to advise you. Remember, when you are renting you can't just call anyone to come in and fix the toilet, no matter how desperate you are; you must call in approved workers.
Number Seven
A Finance Advisor is a very good person to have on your list of support. This is not your accountant, but someone who is happy to advise you on purchases such as furniture or groceries. Note that this person is often the one who spends recreational time just hunting for bargains. Check if she (usually) is up for a chat over lunch- and have her recommend a good place. She will often know the best and yet most reasonable restaurant in town!
Asking for help
I was recently reminded by a friend that some cultures, such as the British, find it incredibly difficult to accept help even when offered. "Take up every offer of help at this time!," said this relocating mother. This is no time for pride; but very much a time to be gracious in accepting help as part of your welcome into your new community. Who knows? It might not be long before you know your way around and assist the next new person to the neighbourhood.
Tomorrow we complete the support list for your successful relocation...
Number Five
Number five on your Relocation Support Team (RST) is "Driver!" Two weeks ago I wrote about having a driver to take you around on your research trip, so that you are on time for your school appointments. A driver can also show you good neighbourhoods, and places to shop. If a professional driver (check they know school locations and not just business locations)is just too expensive for your relocation budget, and the Tom Tom is a challenge too far, then pray for someone who will be on the end of the phone to help you resource what you need.
Some of us, with map reading ability at zero, need some one who can simply draw a clear map. Think through the assistance you require to find who, what and where your needs are located in your new location. A new friend who knows the territory and doesn't mind giving you time to let you know the location of grocery stores and reasonably priced school clothes is a must on your support list!
Number Six
Number six on your RST is "Housing Advisor." Long after you have had your wonderful estate agent/ realtor find you a place to live, you need the contact details for what ever you need to look after your new home. Plumber? Repairman? The Housing Advisor has all the numbers! In the states, your realtor is often more than helpful with assisting you in this area. In the UK you may need to dig a little further to get someone to advise you. Remember, when you are renting you can't just call anyone to come in and fix the toilet, no matter how desperate you are; you must call in approved workers.
Number Seven
A Finance Advisor is a very good person to have on your list of support. This is not your accountant, but someone who is happy to advise you on purchases such as furniture or groceries. Note that this person is often the one who spends recreational time just hunting for bargains. Check if she (usually) is up for a chat over lunch- and have her recommend a good place. She will often know the best and yet most reasonable restaurant in town!
Asking for help
I was recently reminded by a friend that some cultures, such as the British, find it incredibly difficult to accept help even when offered. "Take up every offer of help at this time!," said this relocating mother. This is no time for pride; but very much a time to be gracious in accepting help as part of your welcome into your new community. Who knows? It might not be long before you know your way around and assist the next new person to the neighbourhood.
Tomorrow we complete the support list for your successful relocation...
Tuesday 31 May 2011
Relocation Support Team List
So, you are developing your personal support team for your overseas relocation. Even if you are not a list-person, it's time to make at least one list in your life to note the members of your personal team as you change countries. Especially if you are a single parent, you need this team. Single parents cannot throw their hands up in the air declaring that life is all too much to handle while trying to get to grips with a new job and say, "I'm leaving all that family stuff to the wife!"
As mentioned, your number one support is your faith in Father God and all He will do, as this relocation is NO surprise to Him. Joining this Number One on your list is someone who might be a prayer partner especially for your relocation research trip, as well as the period of transition from one country to another. This prayer partner understands that you need someone to whom you can give your prayer concerns (let them have the list!), keep these concerns confidential and at the same time remember that you are on the move and need an Aaron and a Hur (OK, some of us need two prayer partners!).
Number Two on your list is a Health Advisor. This is someone who will get you the telephone numbers of health providers in your new location. You do not want to have your child wake up in the middle of the night with pain (usualy ears) or quite ill from some strange-to-them food they ate and not know whom to call/ring. Who answers YOUR phone at three in the morning?
Number Three on my personal support team list is knowing where I can find a small Bible study group in my new location. This is the group of people who will remind me time and time again that no matter where in the world I go, Father God goes with me. It may take awhile to find such a group in your new location, and often you will wait to find this group when you have found a new church. Still, the sooner I can plug into Women's Ministry, the sooner I have access to other women of faith who know their way around the community, and that is an amazing assistance for mothers! Single working mothers may find this in their place of work (though that is more in London for lunch and New York City for after work).
Number Four on the list is an education advisor, and this does not necessarily mean a highly paid education consultant, but someone you can discuss personal child related school issues in the early days of relocation. This person can give you invaluable advise on assisting your child make the transition from one academic culture to another. Getting those first days of school right can make all the difference to a successful relocation for you and your child/children. It is a good idea to choose someone (for your personal education support) that will not just commiserate about how another country does things in the classroom, but can either explain details to you or assist you with developing a successful strategy for working with your child's new teacher.
Tomorrow I will look at the next three people on your Relocation Support Team..there are ten in all to assist you with a successful relocation indeed!
As mentioned, your number one support is your faith in Father God and all He will do, as this relocation is NO surprise to Him. Joining this Number One on your list is someone who might be a prayer partner especially for your relocation research trip, as well as the period of transition from one country to another. This prayer partner understands that you need someone to whom you can give your prayer concerns (let them have the list!), keep these concerns confidential and at the same time remember that you are on the move and need an Aaron and a Hur (OK, some of us need two prayer partners!).
Number Two on your list is a Health Advisor. This is someone who will get you the telephone numbers of health providers in your new location. You do not want to have your child wake up in the middle of the night with pain (usualy ears) or quite ill from some strange-to-them food they ate and not know whom to call/ring. Who answers YOUR phone at three in the morning?
Number Three on my personal support team list is knowing where I can find a small Bible study group in my new location. This is the group of people who will remind me time and time again that no matter where in the world I go, Father God goes with me. It may take awhile to find such a group in your new location, and often you will wait to find this group when you have found a new church. Still, the sooner I can plug into Women's Ministry, the sooner I have access to other women of faith who know their way around the community, and that is an amazing assistance for mothers! Single working mothers may find this in their place of work (though that is more in London for lunch and New York City for after work).
Number Four on the list is an education advisor, and this does not necessarily mean a highly paid education consultant, but someone you can discuss personal child related school issues in the early days of relocation. This person can give you invaluable advise on assisting your child make the transition from one academic culture to another. Getting those first days of school right can make all the difference to a successful relocation for you and your child/children. It is a good idea to choose someone (for your personal education support) that will not just commiserate about how another country does things in the classroom, but can either explain details to you or assist you with developing a successful strategy for working with your child's new teacher.
Tomorrow I will look at the next three people on your Relocation Support Team..there are ten in all to assist you with a successful relocation indeed!
Monday 30 May 2011
Relocation Support Team
You may have heard the term, "Trailing Spouse," but I have to admit it is a term I cannot stand. To me, this would be the person in any relocation who trails behind, picking up the pieces when a relocation doesn't work. Yet, I met someone in Paris several years ago who loves the term. "That's me," she said, "I just move in the slip stream!"
I much prefer the acolade, "support spouse," meaning the person who makes the assignment successful for the entire family. If you are a single parent you can get caught up in being your own support team, and that just leads to exhaustion. Married or single, to insure the peace and even rest I talked about in last week's "Relocation Advisory" blog, you need to establish a personal support team (PST).
This support team has the sole purpose of assisting you in finding a new community in which you and your child/children thrive, new school/s, place to live, new church or whatever else you need. Need?
One of the most stressful aspects of any relocation is in actually knowing what you will need in a land you do not know.
As you start to build your PST for this relocation, remember that your Father God knew before you were born that you were going to make this move. Do you think for one minute that He will not be in the details? Take time to ask Him to reveal your needs for this move. "Not just what I think I need, but what You, Father God, KNOW I need," is a worthwhile prayer.
Ask Him also to help you speak truth in love to those around you. Too many people are quick to tell you what they think you will need as you relocate, so resolve to have that daily quiet time, listening to the Father's confirmation in your mind and heart for a needs vs wants list. Great is His faithfulness.
Ask Him what nurtures your spirit,(from the Holy Spirit), then nurtures your soul, and then your body. As you look to establish your support team, remember that you want the Holy Spirit to lead your spirit in your decision making, not your soul leading, not your body.Unless your spirit is nurtured as you establish this support team list, you waste a lot of time trying to feed your soul. When you are preparing for a relocation research trip, one thing you don't usually have is time to waste. A practical, "how-to" book for spirit nurturing (I would recommend for any long haul flight) is Dr Gary Chapman's, "God Speaks Your Love Language." For reading that will strenghten your resolve in establishing a godly PST, I keep Joyce Meyer's classic "Battlefield of the Mind," on my kindle. You are not going on vacation. You are taking new ground for the work He has given you.
If you are going to have the Biblical peace which passes understanding, and you long for the leading that at least knows where the still waters reside, then you need His support for the road. Tomorrow, I will talk about the next steps in rounding up your personal support team that enables success in any relocation.
Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which transends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
I much prefer the acolade, "support spouse," meaning the person who makes the assignment successful for the entire family. If you are a single parent you can get caught up in being your own support team, and that just leads to exhaustion. Married or single, to insure the peace and even rest I talked about in last week's "Relocation Advisory" blog, you need to establish a personal support team (PST).
This support team has the sole purpose of assisting you in finding a new community in which you and your child/children thrive, new school/s, place to live, new church or whatever else you need. Need?
One of the most stressful aspects of any relocation is in actually knowing what you will need in a land you do not know.
As you start to build your PST for this relocation, remember that your Father God knew before you were born that you were going to make this move. Do you think for one minute that He will not be in the details? Take time to ask Him to reveal your needs for this move. "Not just what I think I need, but what You, Father God, KNOW I need," is a worthwhile prayer.
Ask Him also to help you speak truth in love to those around you. Too many people are quick to tell you what they think you will need as you relocate, so resolve to have that daily quiet time, listening to the Father's confirmation in your mind and heart for a needs vs wants list. Great is His faithfulness.
Ask Him what nurtures your spirit,(from the Holy Spirit), then nurtures your soul, and then your body. As you look to establish your support team, remember that you want the Holy Spirit to lead your spirit in your decision making, not your soul leading, not your body.Unless your spirit is nurtured as you establish this support team list, you waste a lot of time trying to feed your soul. When you are preparing for a relocation research trip, one thing you don't usually have is time to waste. A practical, "how-to" book for spirit nurturing (I would recommend for any long haul flight) is Dr Gary Chapman's, "God Speaks Your Love Language." For reading that will strenghten your resolve in establishing a godly PST, I keep Joyce Meyer's classic "Battlefield of the Mind," on my kindle. You are not going on vacation. You are taking new ground for the work He has given you.
If you are going to have the Biblical peace which passes understanding, and you long for the leading that at least knows where the still waters reside, then you need His support for the road. Tomorrow, I will talk about the next steps in rounding up your personal support team that enables success in any relocation.
Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which transends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Wednesday 25 May 2011
Research Trip Advisory
"The second key to a successful research trip is an attitude of gratitude".
We need to have a 'different spirit' than the rest of the masses travelling these days!
This different spirit ( Numbers 14:24) is one that actively looks out for what the Lord is going to do for us as we move to where ever the Lord has called us to live. "This is why it is so important in our relocation strategy that our first step mentioned in Chapter 1 ("Parents on the Move!" published by Destiny Image Europe)is to know that He both told us to go and He promises He will go with us."
If you are travelling with teenagers or older children, have them get in the game. Tell them to keep notes, and challenge each other to "see things" that they just knowis a blessing from God, either for the research trip or as a hope for the move itself. For example, just meeting someone at the potential school that not only welcomes your family, but takes a special interest in your child's interests and lets them know the connections they can make in your new community. That's a blessing that opens doors!
Moses did not want to even think about relocating without God. "If your presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here." (Exodus 33:15)Thankfully the Lord agreed, saying "My presence will go with you and I will give you rest." (Exodus 33:14)
Rest? Are you kidding? Well, my husband and I are off travelling for a few days, but when we come back, I will look at just the support team to enable that rest that seems to elude most parents on the move. To be that well prepared parent for any research trip, do take time to order my book, "Parents on the Move!" from Amazon or the CLC website. May blessings abound in all yuor travels.
We need to have a 'different spirit' than the rest of the masses travelling these days!
This different spirit ( Numbers 14:24) is one that actively looks out for what the Lord is going to do for us as we move to where ever the Lord has called us to live. "This is why it is so important in our relocation strategy that our first step mentioned in Chapter 1 ("Parents on the Move!" published by Destiny Image Europe)is to know that He both told us to go and He promises He will go with us."
If you are travelling with teenagers or older children, have them get in the game. Tell them to keep notes, and challenge each other to "see things" that they just knowis a blessing from God, either for the research trip or as a hope for the move itself. For example, just meeting someone at the potential school that not only welcomes your family, but takes a special interest in your child's interests and lets them know the connections they can make in your new community. That's a blessing that opens doors!
Moses did not want to even think about relocating without God. "If your presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here." (Exodus 33:15)Thankfully the Lord agreed, saying "My presence will go with you and I will give you rest." (Exodus 33:14)
Rest? Are you kidding? Well, my husband and I are off travelling for a few days, but when we come back, I will look at just the support team to enable that rest that seems to elude most parents on the move. To be that well prepared parent for any research trip, do take time to order my book, "Parents on the Move!" from Amazon or the CLC website. May blessings abound in all yuor travels.
Saturday 21 May 2011
Relocation Research- Driving Around the New Location
So, you have your list of six schools to visit (see "Parents on the Move!," chapter Three, Destiny Image Europe Publishers, you can order from Amazon or Christianbooks.com) and are setting up appointments to visit your schools. Write out a schedule for no more than three school visits a day. In my book, I provide you a sample "School Visiting Schedule," which you can photo copy and keep with you throughout your one week research trip.
Do make sure you have telephoned the schools before boarding the plane, to confirm your appointments and have a named person to meet at each school. You will have, of course, checked out school websites and any possible facebook info. Do not rely on this sort of social media as gospel for what actually happens at a school, but do use it to formulate your questions when on the school tour.
Secondly, I strongly recommend you splash out for a car driver. This may sound extravagant, but bear with me.This is no time to be late for school visits simply because you do not know your way around upper Manhattan or Fairfield County. Principals/Headmistresses have cleared a space for you on their time table and it is seriously not a good idea to be late in most school cultures. Having a driver can free you up to call ahead to the school (again, confirming that you are actually on the way) and to discuss education issues with someone on your support team (next week in this blog) while en route. Save learning your way around your new town for another time.When you are on your school visiting schedule, you are down to business! Should you wish to "see the location," the driver knows just where to look for Main Street/High Street, leafy neighbourhoods,shops, et al.
While I do not get a commission from any driver, I have suggestions for London (do email me)and New York (area) and have found Boston Coach to be reliable over the years in the later. Make sure, when booking the driver that he or she is happy to discuss neighbourhoods with you, and best school driving routes at eight am in the morning- they have some very helpful insights!
Do make sure you have telephoned the schools before boarding the plane, to confirm your appointments and have a named person to meet at each school. You will have, of course, checked out school websites and any possible facebook info. Do not rely on this sort of social media as gospel for what actually happens at a school, but do use it to formulate your questions when on the school tour.
Secondly, I strongly recommend you splash out for a car driver. This may sound extravagant, but bear with me.This is no time to be late for school visits simply because you do not know your way around upper Manhattan or Fairfield County. Principals/Headmistresses have cleared a space for you on their time table and it is seriously not a good idea to be late in most school cultures. Having a driver can free you up to call ahead to the school (again, confirming that you are actually on the way) and to discuss education issues with someone on your support team (next week in this blog) while en route. Save learning your way around your new town for another time.When you are on your school visiting schedule, you are down to business! Should you wish to "see the location," the driver knows just where to look for Main Street/High Street, leafy neighbourhoods,shops, et al.
While I do not get a commission from any driver, I have suggestions for London (do email me)and New York (area) and have found Boston Coach to be reliable over the years in the later. Make sure, when booking the driver that he or she is happy to discuss neighbourhoods with you, and best school driving routes at eight am in the morning- they have some very helpful insights!
Friday 20 May 2011
Research Trip for Relocation
We are about to welcome the young couple who will be staying in our home while we head to the states for six months, as it's that time of year again when we switch countries. I was thinking how easy this transition is now, compared to earlier days. How lovely it is to just pick up the phone and have a friend meet us at the Tampa airport. We catch up on local news (who gossips?!) while driving across the Skyline Bridge and I am eager to once again get my toes into the Gulf of Mexico.
But it hasn't always been such a smooth transition. When you change countries with children, your focus is more on "How will they settle into the new school?" What do we do if the baby gets an earache on the flight? What if my teenager finds the transition a real pain?"
This is where a research trip several months ahead of the actual relocation is envaluable. Over the next several days I am going to write about what makes a successful research trip, especially when you are doing this as a single mother. The reason I am focusing on single mothers is that even when you are married, most overseas assignments are still male (see link for stats)and often the mum/mom does the research on her own.As one vetran of multiple corporate moves said to me, "When it comes to the research trip, I always feel like a single mother. OK, a single mother with a great paycheck." With corporate relocation packages not being at their best these days, I will focus on a more "doing it yourself" budget variety. Though I continue to write mostly about relocation between the UK and USA, it is my hope that the principles will aplly to other regions of the world....I always have my parents relocation to South Korea in mind!(And believe me, there was no beforehand trip.) Enjoy the prep. It's part of the journey....now, today I am back to shoving things in the attic!
But it hasn't always been such a smooth transition. When you change countries with children, your focus is more on "How will they settle into the new school?" What do we do if the baby gets an earache on the flight? What if my teenager finds the transition a real pain?"
This is where a research trip several months ahead of the actual relocation is envaluable. Over the next several days I am going to write about what makes a successful research trip, especially when you are doing this as a single mother. The reason I am focusing on single mothers is that even when you are married, most overseas assignments are still male (see link for stats)and often the mum/mom does the research on her own.As one vetran of multiple corporate moves said to me, "When it comes to the research trip, I always feel like a single mother. OK, a single mother with a great paycheck." With corporate relocation packages not being at their best these days, I will focus on a more "doing it yourself" budget variety. Though I continue to write mostly about relocation between the UK and USA, it is my hope that the principles will aplly to other regions of the world....I always have my parents relocation to South Korea in mind!(And believe me, there was no beforehand trip.) Enjoy the prep. It's part of the journey....now, today I am back to shoving things in the attic!
Thursday 31 March 2011
English Mother's Day
We're back in Surrey, England and looking forward to my daughter and son in law coming down from London to celebrate English Mother's Day; or Mothering Sunday, as they call it in the UK. The stores are packed with cards and flowers and gifts to give "mum." Even the post office had a lovely gift card, where you could load up a bit of money for your mum to spend at a variety of local shops.
I continue to give thanks for being able to be a mum/mom. Father God was and is so good to me!
So we go from celebrating Italian Father's Day Saturday before last, to English Mother's Day which may be a whole-weekend event. My daughter and I plan to take Saturday morning and enjoy a "facial" at Neal's Yard (a branch of the famous London natural skin-care shop) and then shop for some up-coming weddings of family and friends.
Then, in the late afternoon there are several music concerts; and though I am not sure they are in honour of Mother's Day, this mom is looking forward to going! One concert features rock- gospel. There is a whisper that this group which will be singing at Holy Trinity Church in Guildford on Saturday, may be tipped to be part of the Olympics Opening Ceremony. As my husband's oldest son is singing, we just might be able to say we will have someone in the family who is in the UK Olympics!
That evening a step-daughter in law will be singing English Cathedral Music at a church in Fleet, so we will head on to concert number two of the day after a quick Chinese dinner take away. Cathedral music doesn't seem to be much in demand for the Olympic concerts, but I am looking forward to quiet moments soaking in this historic musical tradition. I love Saturday nights when music prepares hearts and minds for Sunday worship.
I continue to give thanks for being able to be a mum/mom. Father God was and is so good to me!
So we go from celebrating Italian Father's Day Saturday before last, to English Mother's Day which may be a whole-weekend event. My daughter and I plan to take Saturday morning and enjoy a "facial" at Neal's Yard (a branch of the famous London natural skin-care shop) and then shop for some up-coming weddings of family and friends.
Then, in the late afternoon there are several music concerts; and though I am not sure they are in honour of Mother's Day, this mom is looking forward to going! One concert features rock- gospel. There is a whisper that this group which will be singing at Holy Trinity Church in Guildford on Saturday, may be tipped to be part of the Olympics Opening Ceremony. As my husband's oldest son is singing, we just might be able to say we will have someone in the family who is in the UK Olympics!
That evening a step-daughter in law will be singing English Cathedral Music at a church in Fleet, so we will head on to concert number two of the day after a quick Chinese dinner take away. Cathedral music doesn't seem to be much in demand for the Olympic concerts, but I am looking forward to quiet moments soaking in this historic musical tradition. I love Saturday nights when music prepares hearts and minds for Sunday worship.
Monday 21 March 2011
Day Out in Italy
Jo Parfitt's father wrote a book called "Global Grandparents" and it suggests than when you are visiting your children overseas it is a good idea to take a day or two and go out somewhere on your own. Leave the kids in peace! Give them a break!
So, today my husband and I decided we would brave the Italian traffic and head a hundred miles down the road to the seaside town of Pescara. The head office of my publisher, Destiny Image Europe has their office there and we were able to meet up with the lovely and welcoming Destiny Image Europe Team. For two hours we talked over my next book, as well as promotion work for my first book, "Parents on the Move!" Then we went to lunch together, and that is where I saw the greatest little idea for helping young families as they gather their lunch at a cafeteria. I will post a photo of this "Family Tray Carrier" as I call it when we get back to the UK and I can load up the photo.It may not be earth shaking, but I love simple technology that makes life for young moms and dads as simple as possible. Apparently those of you who have visited IKEA stores will have seen this little device but it is available generally throughout Italy.
Back "home", my step-daughter and I made a last minute run to the store to get my English son in law's birthday present;which of course will remain secret, but I have to say I am pleased that the home designer G..... has their home in this Marche' region of Italy. There are twenty one regions of Italy and this one is the home of G....and shoes- lots of Outlets!
We are now packing and preparing to get all we can into the one carry on bag allowed on Ryan Air and head back to the UK in the morning. Granddad is reading bedtime stories now and we prepare to say goodbye to Baby D. While global grandparenting has it's blessings, it is always hard to say goodbye.
So, today my husband and I decided we would brave the Italian traffic and head a hundred miles down the road to the seaside town of Pescara. The head office of my publisher, Destiny Image Europe has their office there and we were able to meet up with the lovely and welcoming Destiny Image Europe Team. For two hours we talked over my next book, as well as promotion work for my first book, "Parents on the Move!" Then we went to lunch together, and that is where I saw the greatest little idea for helping young families as they gather their lunch at a cafeteria. I will post a photo of this "Family Tray Carrier" as I call it when we get back to the UK and I can load up the photo.It may not be earth shaking, but I love simple technology that makes life for young moms and dads as simple as possible. Apparently those of you who have visited IKEA stores will have seen this little device but it is available generally throughout Italy.
Back "home", my step-daughter and I made a last minute run to the store to get my English son in law's birthday present;which of course will remain secret, but I have to say I am pleased that the home designer G..... has their home in this Marche' region of Italy. There are twenty one regions of Italy and this one is the home of G....and shoes- lots of Outlets!
We are now packing and preparing to get all we can into the one carry on bag allowed on Ryan Air and head back to the UK in the morning. Granddad is reading bedtime stories now and we prepare to say goodbye to Baby D. While global grandparenting has it's blessings, it is always hard to say goodbye.
Saturday 19 March 2011
Italian Father's Day
Father's Day is today, a Saturday in Italy, so we are heading out tonight to a local pizza place to enjoy two generaions of fathers and give thanks for all they do for our family.
For me, Saturday mornings are always special. It's my time to recharge batteries, a type of Sabbath rest that doesn't happen when rushing to church on a Sunday. This Saturday we are with my husband's daughter and her young family in the Le Marche area on the Adriatic. Papa G (ie the son in law)woke up (from a sleepless night with baby D)to a sign on Baby D's chalkboard saying "Happy Father's Day, " and a note on his screen saver. Later in the morning my husband had some father-daughter time as they took Baby D to his weekly swimming lessons in the only learner pool for miles around.
I just basqued in the sun on the terrace. Some Saturdays I love time to myself, sometimes a special lesurily moment with my husband or a very long telephone chat with my sister. As part of this Italian version of my Saturday morning ritual I was enjoying a good book, but I was missing my very large black coffee. Then the idea came to me. I made the usual Italian expresso on the stovetop in one of those iconic Italian designed coffee makers, and poured it into an American sized mug, added hot water and presto...I had the Saturday morning coffee all set. Back on the balcony reading and giving thanks for the fathers in our family...
For me, Saturday mornings are always special. It's my time to recharge batteries, a type of Sabbath rest that doesn't happen when rushing to church on a Sunday. This Saturday we are with my husband's daughter and her young family in the Le Marche area on the Adriatic. Papa G (ie the son in law)woke up (from a sleepless night with baby D)to a sign on Baby D's chalkboard saying "Happy Father's Day, " and a note on his screen saver. Later in the morning my husband had some father-daughter time as they took Baby D to his weekly swimming lessons in the only learner pool for miles around.
I just basqued in the sun on the terrace. Some Saturdays I love time to myself, sometimes a special lesurily moment with my husband or a very long telephone chat with my sister. As part of this Italian version of my Saturday morning ritual I was enjoying a good book, but I was missing my very large black coffee. Then the idea came to me. I made the usual Italian expresso on the stovetop in one of those iconic Italian designed coffee makers, and poured it into an American sized mug, added hot water and presto...I had the Saturday morning coffee all set. Back on the balcony reading and giving thanks for the fathers in our family...
Friday 18 March 2011
Friday in St'Elpidio
Sunny day, but cool and the granparents (that's us) decded to go on one our walks with Baby D. Grandad did the technology (ie unflurrled this generation's complicated stoller/pushchair/passeggino) and I secured the hat. Off we went to see the small Friday market (Saturday is the bigger market in a nearby town)...and who did we run into but Italian grandma- or "Nona" as they say in these parts!
It makes you feel very much at home to run into someone you know in the market. After hugs and kisses (both sides of the cheeks) we then went on our way past kitchen items, fruit and veg and beautful blouses and teenage t-shirts and jeans. I can say "hello" with a good enough accent to get myself in trouble...vendors then come out with a whole string of incomprehensible words! I must say Italian men know how to make an older woman feel apreciated! Nothing lewd or menacing, just friendly and welcoming. What a treat!
We are back home and have had a big family lunch wth birthday cake for Chris's daughter...they made it together last night and I took photos. We may just have to YouTube some of my husband's good cooking methods. Yesterday was quite a baking day...birthday cake, then hot cross buns, then bread which was consumed in minutes. Food is such a part of family life here, and it is lovely to have some time to make, bake and enjoy!
There is quite a challenge when writing about this though....the computer keyboard is in yet another layout (ie not American and not English layout)and though the layout of the google checkin page is thankfully the same I am still guessings at the translation! Google Italia was all decorated for the 150th Republic anniversary yesterday!
It makes you feel very much at home to run into someone you know in the market. After hugs and kisses (both sides of the cheeks) we then went on our way past kitchen items, fruit and veg and beautful blouses and teenage t-shirts and jeans. I can say "hello" with a good enough accent to get myself in trouble...vendors then come out with a whole string of incomprehensible words! I must say Italian men know how to make an older woman feel apreciated! Nothing lewd or menacing, just friendly and welcoming. What a treat!
We are back home and have had a big family lunch wth birthday cake for Chris's daughter...they made it together last night and I took photos. We may just have to YouTube some of my husband's good cooking methods. Yesterday was quite a baking day...birthday cake, then hot cross buns, then bread which was consumed in minutes. Food is such a part of family life here, and it is lovely to have some time to make, bake and enjoy!
There is quite a challenge when writing about this though....the computer keyboard is in yet another layout (ie not American and not English layout)and though the layout of the google checkin page is thankfully the same I am still guessings at the translation! Google Italia was all decorated for the 150th Republic anniversary yesterday!
Thursday 17 March 2011
Italian Flag Day
It's a little sunnier today in Italy, though a cool wind blows on the beach. The waves were a bit rough, but we were there to do a family walk and to assist Baby D with sandcastles. On the drive down the hill from Sant'Elpidio to the "Mare" we saw flags hanging from balconies and quite a number of shops shut.
Today marks the 150th year of Italy being a republic and it is a national holiday. Road repairmen were working and the grocery store was open, but many people seem to be taking this one-off holiday as a day-off. Italians usually celebrate a national day in the summer, but this is a special day given as a no-work day in honour of the one hundred and fifty years of a unified country.
We are back up the hill now, and our exhausted sandcastle builder is sleeping while his parents and grandparents start the first BBQ of the year on the terrace- summer is coming!
When we stood on the beach earlier today, we eyed the waves and talked about the Tsunami in Japan. One of the expats here has a son who is married to a Japanese lady. Like many in the world, families have been grateful this week for skype and facebook and mobile/cell phones. When my sister and I spoke earlier this week, we remembered that it took two weeks for our mother to hear that her sister, brother in law and our cousin were alive after the huge earthquake in Chili in 1960. Today, I think of and pray for families who would love a day off to connect and build sandcastles.
Today marks the 150th year of Italy being a republic and it is a national holiday. Road repairmen were working and the grocery store was open, but many people seem to be taking this one-off holiday as a day-off. Italians usually celebrate a national day in the summer, but this is a special day given as a no-work day in honour of the one hundred and fifty years of a unified country.
We are back up the hill now, and our exhausted sandcastle builder is sleeping while his parents and grandparents start the first BBQ of the year on the terrace- summer is coming!
When we stood on the beach earlier today, we eyed the waves and talked about the Tsunami in Japan. One of the expats here has a son who is married to a Japanese lady. Like many in the world, families have been grateful this week for skype and facebook and mobile/cell phones. When my sister and I spoke earlier this week, we remembered that it took two weeks for our mother to hear that her sister, brother in law and our cousin were alive after the huge earthquake in Chili in 1960. Today, I think of and pray for families who would love a day off to connect and build sandcastles.
Wednesday 16 March 2011
Grandparents on the Move!
We are back in Italy and enjoying being grandparents "up close" for a week. We try to visit twice a year and in between times, enjoy seeng the newest addition to our family on skype. This year, Baby D (now one and a half) met us at the airport with his parents; but after the long ride home he went straight to the compter and kept pointing- we were supposed to be on skype! And here we were- alive in person!
I just love the fact that he made the connection!
We flew Ryan Air down from Standsted airport yesterday and noted they are no longer just "handing out" little plastic bags for liquids. Now there is a vending machne where, for a pound ($1.62)- and you do need the proper coin- you can purchase a small platic baggie for your toothpaste etc. I've started stuffing our roll on- carry on bag (one per person), with zip lock bags from the supermarket.
We're looking forward to this week of pushcahir/stroller/passeggino walks into the ancient part of this hillside village and collectng Baby D from his nursery group one or two afternoons.....and I've got the baggies at the ready - just incase. You never know, somewhere in my parenting days I know I used them for more than just airline security!
I just love the fact that he made the connection!
We flew Ryan Air down from Standsted airport yesterday and noted they are no longer just "handing out" little plastic bags for liquids. Now there is a vending machne where, for a pound ($1.62)- and you do need the proper coin- you can purchase a small platic baggie for your toothpaste etc. I've started stuffing our roll on- carry on bag (one per person), with zip lock bags from the supermarket.
We're looking forward to this week of pushcahir/stroller/passeggino walks into the ancient part of this hillside village and collectng Baby D from his nursery group one or two afternoons.....and I've got the baggies at the ready - just incase. You never know, somewhere in my parenting days I know I used them for more than just airline security!
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